Lori Fink, LMFT
Psychotherapy in Nyack, NY and virtual therapy
At the heart of my work...is the belief that the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself.
The way you speak to yourself, the standards you hold yourself to, and the stories you carry about who you are shape every part of your life — your confidence, your relationships, and the choices you make.
Many of us live with a harsh inner critic. We believe every negative thought that crosses our mind. We assume those thoughts are facts.
In our work together, we gently begin to question that. You will learn that thoughts are not truths — they are mental events, and they can be examined, softened, and reshaped.
I help people develop a more compassionate and respectful relationship with themselves.
That means learning to respond to yourself with understanding rather than criticism. It means recognizing where self-doubt has been running the show and building a steadier belief in your own worth and capability.
This work also includes identifying patterns of people-pleasing and overextending yourself.
Often, the way we abandon ourselves in relationships mirrors how we treat ourselves internally.
When you begin to value your own needs and set healthier boundaries, your relationships shift in powerful ways.
When your relationship with yourself changes, everything changes. You move through life with more clarity, confidence, and emotional freedom.
The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
-Rumi